Posted for the December 2010 newsletter                                                  Ghostbusting!   (Entity & Spirit Cleansing)

 

Recently I was hired to do a ghost busting in an apartment complex. During the last six years there had been two stunningly strange residents there. The manager shared only this information with me. I’ll walk thru it as I experienced it.

 

When I am scheduled to do a cleansing of a unit I do some preliminary work first. During the previous few days I had sensed, felt and worked with the energies there inside AND outside the unit. Like aromas, energy doesn’t just stop at the door or wall but permeates a larger area. The extent of that area depends on the strength of that energy, just like aromas.  Think of bread baking and you’ll see what I mean.

 

The unit was on the top floor of a two story building. The manager was aware of energy or she would never have contacted me. I told her she could be there while I worked if she wished. It turned out she was very sensitive and aware. Such a person is a big help in these situations.  One more energy to assist and support and strengthen a focus to cleanse.

You know the old adage, “where two or more are gathered together…”;it certainly compounds our potency.

 

Immediately upon walking in the doorway I was aware of a formidable presence, like an armored warrior, tall, hulking, arms crossed, feet spread apart, defensive, but not really threatening, just stalwart. I was surprised by the immediacy of the connection.  Usually leftover spirits are in the building somewhere but rarely ‘greet’ you at the front door!  So I asked silent permission to enter the apartment.  This was simply a request.  I am a strong personality and so it was not a meek request. The spirit stepped back and I entered.

 

In the work I had done prior to this appointment I was told by inner guidance to bring several tools.  So I brought things that represented Earth, Air, Fire and Water. These are the four elements that create balance and grounding. Each one can become a doorway for a lost spirit to exit the premises. I had brought sage and cedar to burn. These things are ancient ways that in their burning reflect the shift of energies into smoke (transformation) and that smoke is offered as prayer and cleansing and a way out for the spirit. It is a very Native American way to use.  I had also brought sea salt to be used in a glass bowl. Salt is of the earth; so is glass. Its dissolution in water is another form of transformation… another doorway out.  Salt water also acts as a magnet for energies.  After clearing the bigger energies, it would collect the ‘breadcrumbs’ of energy that might be left over.. residual echoes.

 

I immediately surveyed the tiny apartment and saw there were four or five spirits in there: the guy at the door, one in the Living Room up on the wall; one in the bedroom cowering back in the corner and one in the bathroom.  The kitchen was clear. Ultimately it turned out there were only four, because the guy in the bedroom was frantically running back and forth to the bathroom. It is unusual to have so many, no wonder they’d called me. It must have been very difficult to live near all that. To relate, think: noisy neighbors, activity at odd hours all night and weird, chaotic behavior.

 

I placed the salt in the glass bowl and filled it with water from the kitchen there (water and earth combined). Then I put that bowl at the front door, between the legs of that big guy I’d first met. The intent was sort of like the genie returning to the bottle… sucked in, so to speak. He was gone by the time I left without doing anything more.  I actually feel he was a guardian for those other spirits, giving them a space to exist and simultaneously, unfortunately, keeping them there. When they were gone, so was his job.  Poof, genie back in his bottle, or rather, salt bowl!

 

Then I lit two small candles I’d brought and placed them per inner guidance; one in the Living room on the baseboard heater and one likewise in the only bedroom. (fire, air and earth combined). My conscious mind wondered why on the heaters?  It would be revealed in its own good time. My job is to trust my guidance and stay focused on connecting and healing. It doesn’t matter that a physical person isn’t there; the energy is in need of healing; so that is my task. I was placing the candles to anchor the healing energies.

 

Then I lit the small cedar bough in my shell ‘ashtray’. I used a feather to waft the resultant smoke all over the apartment. Occasionally I’ll chant and felt a need to do so here.  I used a Native chant and later a Sanskrit chant. Two very different energies were there and required different applications. The voluminous smoke affected the spirit in the bedroom mostly.  Cowering in the corner he was yelling “Burn! Burn! Burn!” I asked the manager why he’d be saying that; had he started fires?  “Yes”, she replied once in this apartment and once in another one there. Ah, that’s why the candle on the heater… all about heat and fire. In a strange way, it seemed reasonable, sort of like an underscore of hot, and anger and fire. He was very afraid, but not of me.  I sensed he’d been cowering in that bedroom many times.  He was very mentally ill. He darted into the bathroom. I followed and he ran back and forth, bedroom, bath.  I kept wafting the feather and cedar smoke cleansing in that corner. I talked with him, like you would a child, soothing, loving, caring; telling him he could let go now, he could leave, he needed to leave. More smoke, more talk, more chant, more focus.

 

Then I lit the sage and using the feather wafted it everywhere too.  In closets, cupboards, all over. I used the Sanskrit chant now.  He was softening. In the bathroom I sensed the toilet as a huge problem.  I asked the manager what was the story about the toilet, did the guy have terrible diarrhea or what, that there was a big focus on the toilet.  She replied that he kept shoving things down it and they’d have the plumbers there regularly. Fetish perhaps or metaphorically, trying to get rid of aspects of himself.

 

To do this work, you need to realize that much of what you’ll experience is a metaphor for the spirits’ perceptions of reality. So I can interpret much like I would a dream. Look up toilet in a good dream book and you’ll see what I mean.  The cleansing of the bathroom, a focus on healing, the chanting, the nurturing suggestions to leave and the two kinds of smoke seemed to be enough that he faded away and was gone.

 

The manager then informed me the former resident was diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic.  Ah, no wonder. His chaotic energies caused the whirlwind of dysfunction that still remained energetically here. Each of us leaves an energy trail… happiness, joy, anger, chaos or love in varying degrees based on intent and focus.  This unhappy and ill man was severely focused and intentful and left his negative energy big time.

 

Next the entity on the Living Room wall appeared to be feminine. She was an adult but with the mind of a child, maybe 4 yrs old. I took the salt water in the bowl and dipping my fingers in it flicked water droplets up into the air, not on her. All the while I was talking with her. The water, which I had blessed, appeared to her as multicolored soap bubbles. I was connected with her and seeing from her point of view as well as mine. She was fascinated by the bubbles and relaxed enough to tell me her story.  Now this isn’t in complete sentences, but in images. She whimpered “Pain! Pain!” She’d been gang raped and a knife had been used. She was wounded indeed on many levels.  But she remained fixed on the ‘bubbles’ which I continued to flick with the water. I relayed this to the manager who asked “Would any of this be influenced by me, because I was gang raped and they held a knife to my throat.”  Oh my, I thought. The entity on the wall was not her, but was an energy drawn in to this place by the chaotic forces at work. Because the manager had that personal experience she would be much more empathic and magnetic to another’s. So a door was left open to magnetize such. Knowing this now, the manager can close that door to any future matching entity.

 

All the while the manager was wonderful.  She was holding the space just simply being present and focused. She wasn’t in fear. She held the space of love and allowance. She was wonderful.  I had brought my favorite Nag Champa incense; lovely Tibetan stuff. I never felt the need to use it, but asked the manager if she needed it.  She said it was her favorite and she’d just run out of it. Perfect.  So the woman on the wall was now gone, soothed as a child, and told to go to the light where they would love her and she would be safe.

 

The burn, baby, burn guy was gone from the bedroom, directed to the light and no longer needing to cower and fear. He was the entity in the bathroom too; so there’d only been three in the apartment.  The big guardian at the door was gone as there was no longer a need to keep the entities in the apartment.  I did a little prayer of thanksgiving and closing, removed the candles, and all my paraphernalia and we left.

 

Driving home I felt severely nauseous, like I’d need to pull over and throw up. Instead, I imagined that same, but huge lovely soap bubble. I move all the entities’ negativity that remained within and around me to the edges of that beautiful multicolored bubble and then burst it.  POOF!  All gone.

 

Later the manager emailed me saying she felt terribly nauseous and had severe diarrhea. I told her this not unusual and how to use that soap bubble idea to poof it away.  She did and it was gone.  So now you know what it’s like doing a cleanse, commonly referred to as a Ghostbusting. It’s not spooky.  Just open yourself and create a loving space for communicating. Turn them towards the light and give a little loving nudge. They are lost.  Show them the way home. Mostly just speaking to and nurturing, loving and suggesting are your tools. Don’t forget to cleanse yourself after the connection.  Very simply, command it “I am cleansed”.  And so you are.

 

Article submitted by:  Dolly Mae   www.dollymae.com

 

 

Posted July 2010

Gulf Oil Response

 

Just as Mother Earth renews herself, we too are changing, renewing ourselves. Much that was repressed and forgotten, deeply buried within us is bubbling up.  The oil from the depths that has the power to change a great deal is a metaphor for the great shifts within the human life form. We are changing to light beings that can handle 12 times more light than our original DNA could. To do this light will inevitably shine on our darkest aspects. Planetary hate, greed and abuse of people and power will come to the light, as we see daily happening.  The oil spill, welling up from below, is its metaphor.

 

All is not lost. In fact, newness surrounds us; comes from deep within us.

 

Liken this to Mt St Helen's eruption.  Scientists could 'prove' its devastation would take aeons to recover. It took less than two years to begin; and ten years it was astounding.  Twenty five years later, we must be reminded it ever happened. Lives were lost, though very few, but important to each one. The old man on the mountain, sitting in his lodge, represents the old way of hanging on no matter what the level of change being offered.  He was resistance incarnate.

 

In this event too, there will be loss of life and other things of great value. The earth is birthing her own change….as are we.

 

You have a choice here to add to the sum of love on this planet or of fear.  Love is simply letting go of fear. You cannot fear and love at the same time. Choose. We know our focus is an aspect of creation; so simply shift focus to what is loving. Know that our Mother Earth will heal. The animal life will recover. Things will change. Shift your focus to love. Love what is. Love what will be.  Love the changes. Fear and judgment stop the flow and refuse to see any possibilities for positive outcome.  We do not have to know what that outcome is. We have only to remain in loving trust that there is a greater story and that the larger picture is positive, for it is. Trust the process.

 

You have a choice before you. You can sit in the gut wrenching pain of fear; or you can take conscious control of your mind and find something to love and focus on that. Know that the Mother is having contractions prior to the birth. We are with her. As midwives to this miracle, we are attending the coming change. Nothing like it has ever happened in the universes. Humans are waking up, taking their own consciousness in hand and directing it into creation of the next step. Choose well. You are the co-creator of the next moment in this event.

 

Bless this birthing. Ho'oponopono prayer is easy and amazing.

Creator,

Please remove whatever it is within me that has created this experience.

I am truly sorry.

I ask forgiveness.

I thank you.

I love you.

 

Always you have choice in your reaction.

You are powerful, not powerless.

Your addition of love to this planet is powerful.

 

Believe it or not, this experience is so much better than what would have been happening had consciousness not gotten to this point!  Still it is difficult to watch death and dying. Still it is only the illusion of the temporary physicality of us.  We are so much more.  All life is sentient, some more than others.  Our job is to love.  The heart expands to take all comers.  Let your heart open...

 

The answers to the problem are not to be found at the level of the problem. You can connect with the problem from the level of your open heart; Love. It heals.

 

Breathe deeply 3 times to center yourself. Then envision beautiful white light entering from the top of your head and moving down through your body and out your toes into Mother Earth. Repeat the thought of “Healing, Healing, Healing” and see yourself healed and then the Earth healed. Hold the thought for 3 more breaths.

 

You are powerful. Your thoughts transform.  Hold steady in your truth.  Know your love heals.

 

Dolly Mae

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Posted June 2010

To Tell or Not To Tell

 

I am often asked what I do with psychic information about the potential for trouble for someone else. Do I have to inform the person they may be facing a difficulty shortly?

I do not, for several reasons.

 

Sacred Individuality

To understand this seeming lack of caring, please understand I believe each of us is a master. This is sacred and inviolable; a prime directive. Each of us is the creator of our own individual realities. If someone is on a path of self destruction, that is their right. And it is only a potential. Everything can change. No one knows better how to live a life than the individual soul. You would not want someone, even well intentioned, to interfere with your life choices. We love our parents but at some point we want them to stop giving us advice. We want to blaze our own trail. Our individuality is sacred, guided by our own soul’s plan as we created it while still in spirit form. A person may have to hit bottom before awakening. If we keep giving them parachutes, they may not reach their turning point.

 

Disempowerment

To interfere with another’s life is to disempower them. It says “You are living wrong and I know how to run your life better than you do.” I may see important things about someone. So do you. But unless and until they ask you for help, clarification or input, they are not ready to hear it. Good intentions often translate as rescue. And rescuers need victims. They need them to validate their identity as rescuers. Although it makes the rescuer feel good, it reinforces victim mentality in others. It is not your responsibility or your right to change others.

 

The gift

I know you are thinking what about those who can’t help themselves. There is a healthy and an unhealthy way to assist. Mother Theresa’s gift was to see others as whole, not as victims. In placing herself in the heart of such neediness, she was a light for those in the dark. Light does not judge. It doesn’t intend to save others. Light does not inflict. It is simply available, impartial, and present. Let this be our guide.

 

Seeing Mastery in Others

To see even those lying in the gutter face down as magnificent masters is to empower them. Consciousness is a living thing, communicated even without action. They know how you feel about them.  Helping someone who stumbles is a natural act born of the understanding we are all One and s/he who stumbles is in truth You. But to prolong the queries of “are you alright now” while sending unspoken communication of “you poor thing” is disempowering. Authentic help is love and needs no reward or acknowledgement. It is impartial, available and present.

 

Motivation

Pay attention to your motivations as you see others. For example, take the street beggar. Do you avoid them with a “get a job” thinking? Do you see a victim? Do you give them money fearing it could be you or resentfully, haughtily, impersonally? Can you look them in the eye as an equal and be loving with composure and calmness? Your motivations are as important as their circumstances. Their beingness is a gift to you to for self awareness.  Through their simple act of being in their situation, they have volunteered, on a higher level, to be a nudge to your consciousness to look at the Oneness of all things in a compassionate and even handed way. These angels of the streets have chosen to be a gift to you. When you come across such an angel, go within to determine your own impulses to give or not give.

 

Judgment

However you act, there is no judgment but what you place on yourself. No one else knows your internal thinking and feeling process. Great compassion may simply beam love to them, or connect with a word, a touch. Kindness can mean more than money. If that street angel is playing the role of a victim, that is their concern.  You do not have to reinforce it by responding as a rescuer. Be even. Be aware. Be conscious. It is such a little thing, but huge in impact.

 

Crossroads

I have always figured that if God/Goddess does not swoop in to rescue someone, neither should I. Acknowledging each as creator seems to honor the Creator in each of us.  If you really want to know something you will ask. First, go within and ask yourself. If you do not receive clarity, there are other choices. Let go of the need to know. Learn how to find clarity. Ask someone. When we are at a crossroads, it is good to open windows and get a fresh perspective.

 

Compassion

Wordlessly compassion speaks “I feel your pain. I honor your journey. I see you as Creator, a Master. Blessings on your path.”  Our job is to love. Love people as they already are, not as they could be, should be or might be. Love yourself first. Fill your own cup of self, a drop at a time until you overflow. Such freely expressed love blesses everyone and everything.

 

Refrain and Validate

It is a hard thing to refrain from giving advice when not asked. We do it all the time in conversations with friends.  Listen to yourself.  When a friend tells you of their pain, be compassionate, loving, validating. Acknowledge their feelings. Save your advice for only when you are asked. I often compare this to a child throwing up. You pet their head, make loving comments, touch their back, validate, coo, love. You do not start giving advice. They are in the process of disgorging something painful.  Allow their process. Hold your well intentioned advice until they ask for it. It’s tricky, but you will both be better (more empowered) for the experience.

 

Divine Timing

If someone is facing a potential crisis, I believe their consciousness aligns with Divine Timing and they will either avoid the experience or embrace it depending on their highest and best path. It would be presumptuous of me to interfere with their creation.

 

In summary, open yourself to knowing and feeling. Seek to understand your own motivations. See others as perfect creators no matter what their situation. See yourself that way too. You don’t have to share what you know or be validated for it. In your own life ask for input when you are ready. Allow others to do the same. To tell or not to tell; it’s up to you.

 Article submitted by:  Dolly Mae   www.dollymae.com

 

 

Posted May  2010

Vacationing

Vacationing

It occurs to me while on holiday that many people never really get a vacation. They have an ill loved one than needs constant care; they don’t have enough money; they are afraid of leaving home or a hundred other reasons.

 

In a paradise setting I see extensive and filthy makeshift communities of homeless people. Tents and tarpaulins litter the beachside park. My heart goes out to them in compassion for their choices and willingness to accept such limitation; but I do not see them as victims.

 

Saying Yes

Our job as enlightened beings is to say yes to it all. We often feel sorry for homeless people or minimum wage workers. Compassion is one thing. It is lovely, aligning and conscious of our at-one-ment with others. Feeling sorry for others is another thing. When we feel sorry for people we have simply forgotten they are creators, not victims. We have judged their circumstances as awful.

 

Freedom

Oftentimes we do not even know the real story behind their situations. For some, such ‘housing’ is a step up from something. It may represent freedom from abuse, bills, burdens, family, debt or even isolation.

 

Just One Choice

I’m not being Pollyanna here, but we need to see these makeshift communities as just one choice in our reality. In the midst of such wealth and abundance they have made hundreds of thousands of small decisions that resulted in their reality being what it is. And so have we. We are, for the most part, comfortable in the one we have chosen. Yet we are living in a reality that is would be deemed substandard from a $5,000.00 per night hotel room. 

 

Perspective

If a wealthier person felt sorry for you in how you live your everyday life, you’d be insulted, and rightfully so. Such condescending attitudes make many presumptions about what pleases you, your comfort zone and your perceptions. It says everything you think and all you have become are wrong.  How pompous and arrogant is such an attitude! The same is true when you feel smug and superior looking down on the tent dwellers.

 

All is One; All is Now

If we but remember we are all one and all is happening now, we will understand things differently.  Everyone else: filthy, wealthy, grieving, mentally ill or deliriously happy is an aspect of you. They are offering you an opportunity to see a facet of yourself in a different mirror, through different eyes. Embrace that awareness of the choices you could have made in this lifetime… that some part of you did make since we are all One; and be grateful. Be grateful that you have decided to emphasize a different facet of your beingness this time around that suits your comfort zone..

 

Comparison

Because we live in a world of duality everything is looked at in comparison to something else. We do this to make informed choices. However, if we make comparisons to feed ego, to feel superior to someone else or to create separation, we have failed in our job as enlightened beings. Judgment separates. Acknowledging facets of the crystals we are unites us in a common bond of oneness. Preferences are not steps up a ladder; just choices based on myriad experiences that brought us to the now moment. Live in that now moment, make informed choices and remember the seed of each of us is in each other.

        Submitted by:  Dolly Mae   www.dollymae.com

 

Posted March 2010

Overload

Media Overload

Recently I was overloaded with negative input about potential disasters for the earth, natural and man made. This overload produced a curious result. I was no longer afraid. I no longer worried. I decided I had little or no voice and even less input. In the face of such overwhelming negative potentials, our only recourse is Love. It was an odd experience, this retreat into a place of expansion and safety.

 

Our Power

Our consciousness is more powerful than any possibility of negativity. Thoughts are real.  We’ve heard this over and over, but what it means here is that our thoughts make our reality. Individually, each of us is responsible for what we think and thus create. Thoughts PLUS emotions create. Our consciousness has more power than any wave, virus, molecule or thought that could be beamed at us, spoken to us or come into our awareness. OUR THOUGHT CAN CHANGE OUR FUTURE! This is our true power.

 

Overcoming Fear

Mind control, hexes, spells and viruses are no more powerful than the energy you give them.  Years ago I was ‘professionally hexed’ by a group of people who believed in such things. I always wondered what would happen if I came under the influence of Voodoo type negativity/ curses. At that time I was studying “A Course In Miracles”.  The lesson that day was “You already are as God created you; therefore you cannot be added to or subtracted from.”  How perfect! I KNEW, beyond any doubt, that the hexing exercise needed a sender and a receiver.  I was not receiving. My joy at this awareness as the hexing was happening exceeded all bounds and I sent that joy coupled with love to the perpetrators.

 

The next day, each member of that group presented themselves individually asking me how my night was. I was grinning from ear to ear in joy until my cheeks hurt. I looked them in the eye and said it was wonderful and thanked each one. Henceforth that group sought me out, asked my advice and included me in their ‘family’. It was fascinating. Unable to influence me, they wanted my strength in their group.

 

Viruses and Such

Today we are faced with propaganda fear concerning viruses. Do not get caught up in the debates about the truth or fiction, the source, the intent or the outcome of a possible issue. Strength does not lie in the debate.  Your strength lies in your decision to use your mind to create the reality that is best for you. Remember, you cannot be added to, nor subtracted from. “You already are as God created you.”  So use your fine mind to align with health, wholeness and most of all Love.  All else is fear. Choose which one you wish to give your power to.  The native people say that within each of us is a wolf and a dog. Which one will you feed?

 

Overwhelm

Overwhelm does not mean complacency and giving up because you may feel powerless. Overload can blow the circuits of belief you have in other peoples’ agendas and ideas. Retreat within yourself into that place of power that has always been there. You are the creator of your own beliefs. Do not purchase others’ at great cost to yourself.  You get to decide. You are very powerful.  Feel resonance within and you will know what is truth for you. Throw out what doesn’t resonate.

 

Healing

Healing occurs in a moment. Your consciousness has a huge effect on it, within you or another. If you’ve ever done any healing you know you need to clear your energy after working with someone. Clear your own energy after hearing negative statements that are fear based. You can do this by washing your hands consciously but not out of fear, but as a sacred cleansing. You can do this using sage, cedar, incense, visualizing yourself in a shower of golden light, using a singing bowl or bell, or any other consciousness lifting method. It is by your intention and thought that clearing and healing occur, not by the ‘accuracy’ of any method.  You cannot do it wrong!  Your consciousness is in control.  If you think you are wrong, you are.  If you think you are right, you are.

 

Surrender to the Master Within

Your surrender to your own power is the key to your own future and to the future of this planet. This is mastery. Nostradamus’ predictions stopped coming true two decades ago.  So too with Edgar Cayce’s predictions. They both said consciousness was the powerful key to shifting any negativity on this planet and in this universe. Our choice is between Love or Fear. If you find yourself in fear, choose again.

 

Quote

Since I couldn’t have said it better, I am quoting here from David Wilcock’s article http://divinecosmos.com/index.php/start-here/articles/53-a-scientific-blueprint-for-ascension .  You may wish to read his work for yourself and see if it resonates.

 

 “No matter where we stand in our enlightenment process, issues will still arise that will push our buttons and trigger our "old stuff." The key is to dance through them without having them stick to us along the way. Just bless and release, bless and release, forgive and accept.

Deal with the responsibility issues as they come up, communicate with openness and bravery, and share your love with yourself and to others without expectation of return, and you are well on your way to self-mastery.”

Choose Joy.  It’s always an option!

 

Dolly Mae   www.dollymae.com

 

 

Posted January 2010

Choosing Joy in the Midst of Crisis

Qualifications

You may ask what qualifies me as an author in the field of choosing Joy in the Midst of Crisis. I am not an expert. I have simply survived crisis and pass on many techniques that worked.

 

Acknowledgement

Let me first acknowledge those reading this who have had crises in their lives: rape, wrongful imprisonment, abandonment, abuse, floods, famine, earthquake, fire, disastrous health or lost a loved one, be it a mate, a sibling or a child.

 

My crisis was merely financial.  It gives you a perspective, doesn't it?

 

Crisis Defined

When we are children, great drama is a skinned knee, being picked last for the team or not making the team at all. As we grow up, our dramas become larger and larger, yet within us is still the small child who skinned a knee. Crisis isn't defined by the externally applied test of severity, but by the internal gauge of our own emotions.

 

Losing the football game because you fumbled the ball on the tie breaking last three seconds of the game may be equally as devastating as if you had made a bad business decision that resulted in losing your job. We categorize levels of trauma; but to the emotional self, it's all pretty much the same: a massive blow to self worth, lovability, connectedness, abundance or control.

 

My Story 

I had been a real estate investor.  The Feds changed the law so I was unable to get loans and I needed many. Then I heard "In any moment we can choose joy.  It is always a choice."  I was being served with hundreds of lawsuits. I chose to be happy as the postman delivered a container full of more foreclosure notices. Instead of my embarrassment, I focused on him as he began telling me of his anniversary surprise for his wife.  He was so happy I became happy. I was amazed. Choosing joy worked, for real.

 

How It All Shifted

When I stopped asking "Why me?" and began asking "Why did I create all this?" I began to heal. This led me to many discoveries about how to choose and what choices were available. I read hundreds of books, studied thousands of hours and sought out extraordinary masters, only to be redirected to myself as the source of all that was occurring in my life.  I learned how I was that source, how I was creating what was in my world and finally how and why I had collapsed my financial world so completely. These answers didn't come all at once.  It was the journey that made the difference.  All the reading and all the teachers didn't give me answers so much as they gave me pointers so I could rediscover those answers for myself.

 

Ten Pointers: The Secrets I Learned to Choosing Joy

MAKE A JOY LIST.   This gives you scheduled time to focus on joy. This is so incredibly simple that most of you reading this will think it’s too silly to do.  But it is one of those life-changing things that is incredibly effective.

BEGIN APPRECIATING ANYTHING.    This little thread will become a lifeline to joy. When you decide you’ve had enough of an undesirable feeling, you can begin to shift immediately by changing your focus to appreciating anything. Appreciate one thing, anything, then more things, until you all you feel is the vibration of appreciation.

LOVE A THING ‘TO DEATH’.   When you are hurting and finally decide you’ve had enough you can love the pain to death.  Once you make the determination to be done with the pain you can use any method possible to shift your awareness into one of love.  It may be music, poetry, spiritual books, walking in nature meditation, or journaling.  By shifting your focus, you allow yourself to move into an altered state, altered from the downward spiral you were in.  You literally step into a clear space in which you choose your next feeling.

GIVE AWAY WHAT YOU NEED.  When you’re hurting and in pain find someone else to whom you can give what you need.  When we give away what we need, physically or emotionally, we have recognized at a deep internal level that we already have it within ourselves, or we wouldn’t be able to give it away. Eg. Give away loneliness by sitting with a stranger in a park or coffee shop.

SHIFT YOUR FOCUS.   Whatever you focus on you get more of.  This is the Law of Attraction.  Attract what you’d prefer.  Focus on joy, love, health or abundance!

CREATE A WELLNESS PLAN.   Plan for your health on all four levels of your being:  Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual.

CREATE A PERFECT DAY.  Choose a day that becomes Christmas like in its expectation of joy and perfection. My day is April 21st.. every year!

REMOVE THE LABEL.   Whatever you call the energy: anger, guilt, fear or something else, tear off the label you have given it.  Beneath it is pure raw energy.  Use it to feel good, heal yourself or get energized.

BECOME A SCREEN TO EMOTION.  Allow them to pass through you. When you feel a wave of emotion coming toward you, choose not to clamp down and hold your breath but become pliant, like a tree in the wind.  Open to the experience and imagine your whole self becoming like a screen door.  Let the emotions sweep through you without attaching to them and without getting stuck in them.

CHOOSE JOY.  It is always available as an option. Choose it by first remembering times of joy in your life.  Then become it.   Feel it. Be it. Exult in the feeling.

 

These secrets are expanded in greater detail in my book “Choosing Joy in the Midst of Crisis” available through my website.

 

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